Tanya Ruckstuhl-Valenti LICSW, MSW
I had a lovely time at the ADD Resources Spring Conference on Saturday, where I presented on social skills and got to attend the presentation of Dr Nancy Payne on ADD in the workplace and learned an interesting fact: the #1 complaint of employers in Washington state is the lack of “soft skills” among employees and perspective employees. Soft skills are interpersonal skills and complement “hard skills” or technical learning such as knowing how to program a computer or drive a sixteen penny nail.
Dr Payne runs http://www.payneandassociates.com/ a consulting service specializing in inclusive and adaptive business practices.
I also ate lunch with Kendra Wagner, a buddy of mine who runs http://www.readingwritingthinking.net/ a tutoring service for children with learning disabilities and learning differences.
Brooke Gray from Shire joined us for lunch as well and is currently working to get the word out about A Shared Focus, a free, evidence-based informational website for adults and children with ADHD as well as providers. You can join and read here: https://www.adhdandyou.com/adhd-patient/adhd-resources/adhd-a-shared-focus-sign-up.aspx
Unfortunately I didn’t get to attend the headliner as I had to zoom home for a party, but Gina Pera, author of “Is It You, Me or Adult ADD?” spoke on the topic of ADHD on relationships and made a very funny comment at lunch: She wanted to join the peace corps, but upon learning from a friend of the parasites and sleeping conditions faced by peace corps volunteers in the third world, she decided instead to do her own “domestic peace corps” and dedicate herself to helping people with ADHD.
I am starting a monthly group for people wanting to enhance their social skills. If you or anyone you know might be interested, please let me know!
The focus will be learning in depth social connection techniques, successful managment of personal vulnerability, the four conversational fouls, ways to become a better listener, developing a robust personal conversational menu, learning how to politely disengage from unpleasant or unproductive conversations, ways to manage conflict while preserving the friendship/relationship, and how to be assertive without being aggressive.
We will practice these skills in a safe, non-judgmental atmosphere of mutual respect and confidentiality.
We will also incorporate participant’s requests and communication issues.
If you are interested, reply via email (firstname.lastname@example.org) or phone (206) 375-7690 so we can schedule an intake. In order to keep the group cohesive I shall meet with potential participants in advance to make sure that everyone is in the same boat in terms of expectations and needs.
Cost: Intake will take one hour and cost $60.
Group will meet the first Saturday of the month from 9am to 11am, and will begin when I have an appropriate number signed up.
and cost $45
If you know of anyone who might be interested, please send them to this blog post. Thank you!
- Workshop Opportunity: Social Skills and Attention Deficit Disorder (seattletherapist.wordpress.com)
- What We Know About ADHD (capeadhd.wordpress.com)
- Basement Archaelogy (capeadhd.wordpress.com)
- ADHD Outcomes: Being Rejected Can Have a Bigger Impact than Having Friends (child-psych.org)
- 12 Tips to Navigate Summertime When Your Child Has ADHD (psychcentral.com)